How to build a joyful and healthy relationship?
Relationships that are happy, healthy, and rewarding are important aspect of our physical well-being (yes, love is good for our health!).
For many people, this entails having a happy and healthy relationship.
Love, on the other hand, is complicated—and relationships are even more so! True, partnerships (and marriage) requires ongoing effort. That isn’t to say that relationships should be tough to maintain, but there are certain small, easy things we can do to deepen and nourish our bonds over time
True, partnerships (and marriage, if your relationship takes that shape) necessitate ongoing effort.
Here are ten easy yet effective tips to help you and your partner to develop and build (or maintain) a joyful and healthy relationship:
1. Make Your Love Pattern Better
Building a detailed “love pattern”: the portion of your brain where you store knowledge about your partner’s life is one of these principles. Things like their favorite cuisine, greatest fear, greatest goals and dreams, what’s currently stressing them out, and how they fold their laundry are just a few examples. All of the minor quirks that make someone unique.
Couples who highly pay attention to each other’s interests and know a lot about each other) are more likely to have a stronger, longer-lasting bond.
2. Cultivate Common Interests
You may not always enjoy doing the same things as your partner and that’s fine! but sharing hobbies and experiences is good for maintaining a successful relationship.
Whether you enjoy hiking together, cooking new dishes, seeing movies or perhaps enrolling in a salsa dance class… It doesn’t matter what activity you do; what matters is that you both love it and that you can do it together. (And that you make time to participate in the shared activity on a regular basis!)
3. Spend Time By Yourself
Spending time apart from each other helps to keep things in perspective (you’re not the same person; you’re two different people who chose to spend time/life together). It also allows you to grow your own unique hobbies and skills while also ensuring that you are taking care of yourself and staying healthy as an individual.
4. Learn Your Partner’s Love Language And Express Yourself In It
For couples to understand each other’s love languages, it’s important to discuss each other love languages so that they can “speak the same language” when it comes to expressing and receiving love.
Communicate about how to share your love with him or her in a way they can see and understan.
5. Learn To Fix Differences
Happy and healthy relationships are bound to have conflict. However, we have the option of not responding in a harmful manner.
Mastering how to resolve disagreement is an important part of maintaining a healthy relationship. In your relationship, how do you deal with conflict? When it comes up, how do you address it? How well do you and your partner communicate when there’s a disagreement?
For example, a couple may argue frequently because Lovebird A refuses to assist with household responsibilities unless Lovebird B requests it. Instead of going around in circles, find time to discuss the main problem, it will be of great help to talk about the genuine issues that are arising in a relationship.
6. Pay Attention First
Another easy advice for building healthier relationships in general is to listen first.
When we choose to listen first (that is, listen to our partner before asking them to listen to us), we are focusing our attention on our partner and what they are trying to express to us, which means we are more likely to hear what they are trying to say. As a result, we’re more likely to be able to exhibit empathy, sympathy, and assistance in resolving the issue they communicate.
7. Get Together In The Middle
However, for the majority of day-to-day issues, both partners must be able and willing to meet in the middle.
There is rarely a “right” or “wrong” “side” of things in partnerships. Because each individual is an equal member of the relationship, their needs and desires are given equal weight (or so they should, in most cases).
However, there are times when “meeting in the middle” indicates that one person’s preferences take precedence. For example, if Spouse A is more concerned with interior design and decorating the home, even if their style choices aren’t necessarily what Spouse B would choose for themselves, Spouse B recognizes that this is a much more important area for Spouse A, so they “meet in the middle” by giving Spouse A’s preferences more weight in design decisions.
Compromise does not always mean meeting exactly halfway on every issue or conflict that arises—it means recognizing how much leeway you each have to give so that, overall, you are both accounted for and supported by each other across all situations and circumstances in the relationship.
8. Make A Request For What You Want
Not getting what you want from your partner is one of the most common causes of unhappiness or strife in a relationship—not because your partner is unwilling or unable to supply it, but because they are unaware it is what you want from them.
Sure, it’s ideal if your partner knows precisely what you want, when you want it, and how you want it. That, however, takes time to establish. It’s beneficial (and, in many situations) to be precise about what you want or need, especially in newer relationships or if you haven’t been as open or direct with your communication in the past.
“I’d like you to be very quiet when you come home late and I’m already in bed,” for example. “I’d like you to text me if you’re going to be home later than scheduled, because else I’ll be worried about you,” or “I’d like you to text me if you’re going to be home later than planned, because otherwise I’ll be worried about you.”
Having a clear idea of what you want or what’s essential to you can help build a joyful and healthy relationship.
9. Take Your Spouse Out On A Date
Many couples regret the lack of spark as they get to know each other better and the “honeymoon period” wears off. Some people even believe that they are no longer in love.
It’s popular marriage advise to keep “dating your wife” or “dating your spouse” whether or not you’re officially married.
Continuing to date your husband simply means making an effort to be together, spend time together, and nurture your unique link and spark. For different relationships, this can signify different things. Schedule a regular date night, get dressed up for it… and maybe even wear your favorite perfume.
10. Same Interest
When you and your partner have a “same interest” mentality, you know deep down that you’re on the same team, rather than on rival teams, no matter what situation happens. Your spouse isn’t an adversary or an opponent against whom you must “win”; they’re on the same side as you, and you win or lose together.
To sum up
Relationships that are healthy and fulfilling are not without difficulty. They’re relationships where disagreement is well managed and resolved.